Personal Development: What Is It?
After reflecting on my 4 romantic relationships some odd years ago, after one of the breakups, that was the time where I realized that I didn’t know what I was doing regarding relationships and that I needed to learn what relationships involve and how to behave within them. My own immaturity in the past has caused so much emotional hurt for the women of my past. I needed some serious change within myself.
My own self awareness of what was going on within myself was what set me on the path of studying, observing and investigating relationships for myself. Back then I realized that there wasn’t a school or course (that which I was aware of) that taught human relationships and how to behave within them, so I figured I get to work and learn them on my own. Boy did I learn a lot!
For awhile now, I have been mentioning personal development within my Youtube episodes, here on my blog/site, and various other places. However, I realized that I never really provided people a well detailed description of what personal development truly means and entails. So what I intend to do within this article is to explain this in detail the best that I can and provide at least 1 or more methods for people to get started with their own personal development within their own lives.
Self Reflection:
Self reflection is when a person makes the time to deeply reflect on themselves and their own life in general. This includes starting with their own immediate family/caretakers that they were born or transitioned into. Self reflection allows a person to observe various things about themselves that they weren’t able to perceive up until the time of their self reflection moment. These are things about themselves that they need to change within themselves if they want to develop themselves to overall higher states of being. Without adequate amount of self reflection completed within a person’s life as much as possible, this will leave the person open and vulnerable to various destructive and unproductive people, places, expectations and things within their own life.
For example, many people who are currently in a relationship whether it be a friendship or romantic relationship that they don’t feel is fulfilling to them, often times than not, due to them failing to do adequate amount of self reflection at some point within their own life, they didn’t perceive early on that the other person isn’t a healthy choice to be in a relationship with. Doing self reflection also allows a person to think of a personal criteria for what type of people they want to be involved with within their own life.
Where To Start:
One place I recommend starting is to start to think about your own family that you were born into. Whichever family members or people whom you were raised with and overall spend a large amount of your life with. They will have had some sort of psychological and emotional influence over you all the way up until now.
Start with your parents/caretakers. If they are still alive and well enough to speak about their own childhood with you, find the perfect time to sit with them and ask them questions about how they were raised (if you have already done this, find a way to see if you can find any extra useful info at all). Depending on their own personality and the time that you choose to do this, they might actually enjoy this moment. Remember, many people enjoy speaking about themselves!
If they aren’t available at all to speak about their past, find the closest person available who spent the most time with them. This will provide you the best information possible. Whatever information that you can get about their past will help you with your self study. Especially if it involves information about how they were raised by their own parents/caretakers.
Most of the time, however a person was raised early on is usually how they will raise their own children in one way or another. This isn’t always the case, some people have done their own self reflection, self analysis and self development and wants to do things differently within their own life.
I highly recommend, unless you have sharp memory, that you take as many notes as possible for future references. These notes will pay off for you when you sit down alone to reflect on your life.
Self Analysis:
Self analysis is when a person deeply analyses themselves, their overall life, and the people currently within their own life. This is most effective and efficient whenever the person has 1st released their own self denial that they might currently have within themselves. Self denial is when a person consistently avoids reflecting on themselves to see what has been going on and what needs to be changed within themselves. Self denial prevents people from taking full accountability for themselves overall and instead they blame other people, places and things for what has occurred within their own lives.
Self analysis allows an individual to break down their overall life bit by bit and to examine closely what has been going on within themselves and overall life that has been unseen by them for years. Note: I highly recommend that you seriously embrace yourself for what you will start to perceive overall at this point of stage! What you start to perceive might make or break you. Depends on your current psychological and emotional development level.
I recommend that you utilize ALL of the information that you have obtained to further help with your personal development. Allow it to strengthen you the best way possible.
After me completing a large amount of my own personal development work, I realized that my own parents didn't have the proper parental guidance of their own growing up. That short circuited them from knowing how to properly handle a marriage and children of their own. Once I became conscious of all of this information, I now fully comprehend why they are the way that they are and why they divorced when I was 4 years old. I now look to myself for guidance and help within my own life.
Development:
The development stage is where a person utilizes all of the information that they have obtained from the earlier stages of the personal development process and focuses on resolving all of their unresolved psychological and emotional issues that they have accumulated throughout their own life up until this point. This is where they actually start to change their own view of themselves, their own family, friends and overall the world itself. This is the vital stage for a person to start focusing extensively on modifying themselves and their own life.
Once you start to make changes within your own life it is a possibility that you’ll experience some amount of resistance from the people whom are in your life currently. This is largely due to the average person’s ego doesn’t like change very much, once their ego senses even a potential change, depending on what that change is, sometimes it causes the person to get a little riled up. This is especially possible within your own family if you have had a close relationship with them prior to the start of your own personal development process.
Note: Regarding the people whom you truly care about most, find a time and way to have a heart to heart conversation with them about your personal development process. Explain to them on how you are focused on evolving/bettering yourself and whatever other changes that you are expecting to make. If they truly care about you, they will truly understand and find a way to assist you with this process.
In summary:
In closing, if you seriously want to make changes within your own life and want to have successful and truly fulfilling relationships within it, it is highly essential that you start your own personal development process within your life as soon as possible. The sooner the better! Keep in mind that you can alter anything within your own personal development process that will suit your own needs. This information here is only a template to get people started with their own personal development process.
I truly hope that this information provided here has helped raised your own consciousness level in as many ways as possible. Please send the link of this article to whomever you feel might be interested.
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