Single Motherhood: It Is More Prevalent More Than Ever!
Single Motherhood has become much more prevalent in modern day society than ever before. The way things used to be is that a man and a woman would get together, fall in love with each other, get married, start a family and remain a close family until death (well, very close to that). Very few families from the 60's and on back would separate and then leave women as single mothers.
I personally have seen this 1st hand because I was raised in a single mother household and a large portion of the women in my family as a whole have become single mothers. So the information here within this article is largely coming from firsthand experience. I have had many years to observe and examine this epidemic and now I am sharing what I have learned.
Single Motherhood: it is the process of motherhood that a woman transitions into the moment she exits outside a committed relationship from which the woman's child or children were created from within. Sometimes the father of the child or children at least provides financial support for the single mother and children. There are many times when the father completely exits the life of the family as a whole. Either way, a woman becomes the sole provider and nurturer of her family.
For the past some odd decades or so, the influence of keeping the traditional strong family structure firmly intact has been altered no longer allowing families to stay together as often and long as decades ago. Traditional family structure such as: the father being the strong mature leader of the family and the mother being the strong mature nurturing mother of the family. Both the father and mother playing together as family team leaders of the family and leading their family together. In today's society, that is pretty much non-existent!
These days what exists much more are psychological grown up children calling themselves "mothers" and "fathers". Many people whom have became parents in one way or another have done so prematurely. Prematurely meaning before psychologically maturing 1st and foremost and prematurely before getting their life stable and in order to bring 1 or more children into this world. This form of irresponsibility comes at a great cost and loss for any child coming into this world without the proper mature parental guidance necessary to properly raise a child.
What Is The Main Cause Of Single Motherhood?
There are various things at play here in this situation and they all have an effect on the beginning of single motherhood in one way or another. The 1st and foremost is lack of personal development of the parents before the creation of their child or children. Personal development allows an individual to develop an adequate level of psychological maturity that creates a strong psychological foundation for the individual. This psychological foundation prepares the person psychologically to be better able to cope with the various things of adulthood. Such as: living alone in their own home/apartment and taking care of it responsibly, obtaining and responsibly maintaining a job/career, having their own children (if desired) and raising them responsibly and maturely and much more.
As parents of a child or children, it is the parent's sole duty to put their child or children through some form of a maturity process that helps evolve their minds into an adequate level of maturity. An adequate level of psychological maturity allows the child to be able to think wisely as an independent adult. Being able to do critical thinking without the help of their parents. This is where many parents fail and then the cycle of immaturity continues and more immature so called adults are created and exists.
Now with more immature people walking around getting romantically and/or sexually involved with each other and then creating babies, the only thing that these types of people can pass on to their children is more immaturity. Just think about how often you see these young children having more young children. Even if a person is in their late 20's or 30's that still doesn't indicate that they are psychologically prepared for parenthood. Psychological maturity is the top major requirement for committed romantic relationships and parenthood as a whole!
Then there is the media heavily influencing people in various ways to remain immature, have irresponsible sex and create more children outrageously. Contemplate deeply on how often there are shows and movies about teen pregnancy, irresponsible sexual behavior, relationship breakups and divorces. The list goes on and on and neither of these shows, movies or magazines help prevent single motherhood but instead subliminally influences it in one way or another!
How To Avoid Single Motherhood
Well the very 1st thing to do is closely observe and examine this on your own. Single mothers are just about everywhere in the world and especially here in America. So you have an abundance of examples for you to examine for yourself. Including these modern day so called reality shows that often display single mothers taking the leadership role of a family which is a man's responsibility much more than a woman's responsibility. Being the sole leader of a family forces a woman outside of her true nature and much more into a masculine mindset and energy.
The 2nd thing to do is to truly realize that you as a woman want to avoid being a single mother. Failing to identify and contemplate this within themselves before having children is where many women mess up often. Then they end up being a single mother so quick that they fail to perceive ahead of time that it's about to occur to them and don't know how to prevent it regardless.
3rd thing to do is to focus closely on and start your own personal development process. Time and time again after me speaking with and examining various single mothers including my own family, I have noticed 1 major pattern that the majority of them have took part in. That is consistently and persistently pursuing a committed romantic relationship with another person before psychologically maturing and identifying their own life's purpose. There are much more women whom have spent a very large portion of their teenage years and early 20's focusing immensely on being romantically involved with someone much more than their personal development. This often causes a woman to be set back many years psychologically and distracting them largely from psychologically maturing adequately.
Last but certainly not least, AVOID having children all together AT LEAST until you reach an adequate level of maturity, you understand life very well, you have a steady income, your own place to live peacefully in, and you comprehend parenthood very well. These are the basics of adulthood that most people fail to fully understand BEFORE entering a committed romantic relationship and having their own children. If an individual comprehends and internalizes all of this information within this article here, then they will be much more psychologically prepared for life itself, a committed romantic relationship with another person and parenthood.
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